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31 FLAVOURS: Discussing The Diversity Of Natural Hair [+ Event Info]

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Dolls by Karen Byrd of Natural Girls United

Next month marks 6 years since I big chopped and started wearing my hair naturally. From my days of scouring Fotki for natural hair inspiration to being an admitted product junkie to salon (mis)adventures and more, the past 6 years have brought me eye-opening lessons in hair care, self esteem, and redefining my personal beauty paradigm. Just when I think I know all I need to know and have seen all I need to see, something comes along and shakes everything up.

This year, the running theme has circled around representation in the natural hair sphere. I hosted a panel discussion of women who choose to rock TWAs, which presented the perspective of women who eschewed the more common length aspirations within the natural hair community. Salon chats highlighted a continued problem with poor representation and acceptance of shorter lengths and tighter textures – noticed most in clients who won’t rest until they find the product that eliminates shrinkage and transforms kinks into loose curls. Twitter conversations with writer and mental health advocate Bassey Ikpi brought up the thought of loc wearers being left out of natural hair dialogue – this became an even greater conversation when Essence Magazine featured Ledisi on one of their May 2014 covers for the Beauty Issue.

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These kinds of discussions motivated me to look at my own thoughts on natural hair beauty and diversity. Admittedly, it was easy for me to see the parallels between previously chasing one beauty “ideal” (long, straight, relaxed hair), then embracing my chemical-free texture but still chasing another “ideal” (big, soft curly hair). Early on, the natural hair blogs, YouTube videos, and Facebook forums I frequented all shared the same goal of embracing your natural hair, but there was always an undercurrent of knowing that there was a hierarchy of expressions within it. Short hair, kinky and coily hair, and locs were on the fringe and seen as somewhat of an afterthought – almost giving off a vibe of  “Oh – I guess we should include one of those, shouldn’t we…” Back 6 years ago, my short hair was just a stepping stone to luxurious growth. My kinky and coily sections were interesting, but were obstacles to hurdle in efforts to blend in with my looser sections. I considered locs briefly, but decided I loved the versatility of my loose natural hair too much to part with it. However, I quickly understood the negative way locs were viewed when family members would ask “Are you going to loc your hair?” with a look that clearly meant “You better not!”

Especially over the past year, a number of women have approached me and shared that they’ve felt excluded from the natural hair world, due to not having the “right” texture, length, or style. Where were the spaces for women who had diverse hair goals, journeys, and needs? Many of them expressed being unable to find them, and some identified feeling as lost in the game as I did 6 years ago when I went natural. In my own way with the opportunities I have available to me, I featured (current and previously) loc’d women on ’83 To Infinity, interviewed a Jamaican beauty queen with an interesting natural hair journey, and hosted a Black History Month event focusing on the big chop and rocking TWAs. When plans started flowing this year’s Curls, Coils & Cocktails event, the same theme of diversity and representation came to mind, and I knew that was the angle we would have to take this year.

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Because the natural hair community is bigger than we give credit for, it was a conscious decision to use the 2nd annual Curls, Coils & Cocktails event to broaden our horizons. Our panel features 4 women – one loc’d, one rocking a TWA, one newly big chopped natural, and one stylist who has worked with all manner of natural hair. Our vendors/partners (Diana Tracy Collection, Eli’s Body Shop, & Curl Bar Beauty Salon) are a diverse bunch – female-owned businesses designed to ensure that you look and feel good from head to toe. We’ll have a new musical portion this year, with a performance and Q & A session with Canada’s funk/rock/soul queen – and dope loc wearer – Saidah Baba Talibah. DJ Sean Sax will be on the 1s and 2s, mix and mingling will abound, sweet treats and eats from Mellycakes will be available, and gift bags (thanks to Clore Beauty Supply) and door prizes will be on hand for attendees! We’ve kept up the practice of highlighting Canadian talent and businesses, and the theme of ‘Dos & Diversity will hopefully achieve the goal of inclusivity that we’re aiming for.

Do we still hang on to colonial ideals of beauty, even within the empowered natural hair world? What are the roots of some of the biases we have against certain style choices? How do we combat the irrational need to chase after styles or textures that our hair is not capable of maintaining? How do we truly begin to embrace and own our natural hair without apology? The answers to these questions and more will surely be discussed on July 26th at Curls, Coils & Cocktails – and hopefully we’ll be able to carve out the kind of space that celebrates us all, whether curly, coily, or otherwise.

Get your tickets to Curls, Coils & Cocktails here! 

BACK AT IT: 2 Upcoming Events You NEED To Be At! [R&B + CC&C]

Hey hey, y’all! This post will be a quickie but goodie – I’m taking advantage of having both hands free and a quiet baby to bang this one out, so pay attention:

As crazy as it may seem, I’m jumping back into the event saddle later this month, and wanted to let you all know about what’s going down!

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On July 19th, I’m back as co-host for the R&B: Relationships & Bullsh*t Show with my homie Lincoln Anthony Blades! The question du jour will be “Can Your Career Satisfy Your Soul Like True Love?” so you know this will be a hot discussion no matter your gender or relationship status. I saw Think Like A Man Too (sidenote: I hate sequels that try to get cute with the “too” instead of “2” or “two” especially when it feels grammatically clunky. Anyways.) recently, and one particular storyline made me think about how relevant this discussion is in this day and age – so I can’t wait to have some fun with this one! Get more info and tickets at www.rnbsummer.eventbrite.com!

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I put on my very first event called Curls, Coils & Cocktails last year with my girl AMC, and have been getting TONS of inquiries wondering if it was coming back. Well, YES! On July 26th, we’ve crafted another awesome Curls, Coils & Cocktails event, focusing on the theme of ‘Dos & Diversity! The original idea for the event was born out of a Meetup.com group I was a part of, and when the group leader was unable to continue with event plans, AMC and I stepped up to put it on. Last year was amazing, and we plan on making this year even better!

It was important for us to focus this year on the diversity of natural hair – often, my friends with locs, short cuts, varying textures, and those who are transitioning with various protective styling methods feel left out of the general natural hair discussion. We wanted Curls, Coils & Cocktails 2014 to be a more inclusive space for us to connect with and learn from each other, so we’ve been working hard on the plans!

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We’ve got:

  • gift bags for the first 50 entrants
  • mix and mingling
  • music by one of Toronto’s beloved DJs
  • carefully curated vendors
  • a mini-consultation booth
  • a panel discussion on the diversity of natural hair
  • a performance and Q&A with Canada’s top funk/soul/rock artist Saidah Baba Talibah
  • door prizes and much more!

Grab your early bird tickets until July 11th before the price goes up! www.curlscoilsandcocktails.brownpapertickets.com

Phew! There you have it – hopefully one or both of these events will tickle your fancy! Grab a ticket or two, and I hope to see you out and about later this month! Any questions? Hit me up!

QUICK BITES: Practicing Patience With Chescaleigh

Today’s post is a quick lil somethin’, simply because I’m working on something REALLY special for tomorrow!

I peeped this video by the hilarious natural hair blogger/graphic designer/YouTube queen Chescaleigh (aka Franchesca Ramsey), and HAD to share (in case you guys haven’t seen it yet):

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Patience – what a novel idea in the natural hair discussion! A timely reminder though – I was just speaking with a fellow curly girl who was DYING to know what product/treatment would snap her hair growth into overdrive. She didn’t look extremely satisfied when I reminded her that no matter what she put in her body or on her hair or scalp, she still had to practice the virtue of patience.

Chescaleigh’s video wasn’t without its criticisms, but her intelligent wittiness got the point across quite clearly to me. All too often, I see women who choose to wear their hair naturally fall into the marketing traps of brands promising everything under the moon. Hell – I used to be one of them! It’s easy to get caught up in the frenzy, but the Patience video will hopefully make its viewers step back and put things into perspective.

I’ve followed the blogs/vlogs of all of the ladies featured in the video: Fran from HeyFranHey, Nikisha (born in the Tdot!) and Cipriana from UrbanBushBabes, Taren Guy, and Myleik from Curlbox. If you’ve never checked them out, what are you waiting for?

Is patience in your hair care regimen? Have you forgotten it, or tossed it aside like a product that doesn’t work for you anymore? Also, don’t forget to vote for ’83 To Infinity in the Black Weblog Awards! I’m in the finals for Best International Blog and Best Writing in a Blog – and there’s just over a week left for voting! Hit up the ballot on your laptop, your cell phone, your BFF’s iPad, your work computer, at the library, wherever! You can vote once per device!

Transitioning Tips Part Two: Take Your Time!

Yesterday, I covered Transitioning Tips Part One, and focused on my ladies who took the quick Big Chop route to get rid of their relaxed hair. For me, “Big Chop” = cutting off relaxed hair to wear your natural, but it can be done right away or after a longer period of transitioning. My “big chop” came a year after I stopped relaxing my hair. While I thought that would be a better plan for me than cutting it all off right away, doing a long-term transition comes with its own set of challenges.

If You’re Going To Wait It Out…

  1. Figure out what transitional style you’ll use. 
  • Braids or kinky twists with extensions? Great for putting your hair away and letting it do what it do. However, be careful to not have your hair braided too tightly, especially around fragile edges.
  • Weaves are another great option. Similar to braids, ensure that your own hair isn’t weaved too tightly, and be sure to properly clean your scalp to avoid mildew and product build-up that will stunt your hair growth. Check out this post here for some more info on weave hair care.
  • Want to wear your hair out? It’s doable! Roller sets/rod sets are great for creating a uniform style between your two textures – but don’t forget the importance of not using excessive heat! Twist-outs and braid-outs after washing your hair will give you another great option, minus the heat factor. Flat ironing is my least favourite style due to the high possibility of heat damage to your natural hair…so if you take that route, beware!
                         
       2. Watch your growth as you go.
  • At least every 2-3 months, make sure to trim off some of the relaxed ends – this is the longest length of time that you should leave weave, braids, or kinky twists in before re-doing them.
  • Before re-doing your hair style, make sure to give your hair a good deep treatment, and rest for a couple of days before re-braiding/twisting.
  • If you don’t already have a wide-tooth comb in your arsenal, get one! As your natural hair grows, you will have to treat it with care. Wide-tooth combs will help you to detangle your hair without causing damage.
  • Get familiar with your hair’s demarcation line. This is the point where your two textures meet, and is the most fragile part of your hair. Trimming regularly will keep you from damaging what will be the ends of your “new” hair, and will also help you to avoid ridiculous tangling when washing. Don’t hang on to your relaxed ends for too long – it will just cause more problems down the line.

Did you take the long route to embracing your natural hair? What transitional styles did you use, and did you run into any problems? If you have any tips for long-term transitioners, leave them below!

Have Hair Issues? MTV’s True Life Is Looking For You!

This news has been making its way around the web (not without its share of controversy – sigh), so I thought I should bring it here for your perusal!

MTV’s True Life is casting folks with hair woes, and is also looking to feature people who are ready to wear their hair in its natural state. Here is the synopsis:

“Is your hair your obsession? Do you have unwanted hair, or not the “right” hair? Are you someone with a hormone imbalance that leads to hair loss, or facial hair growth? Culturally are you told your hair should be one way, but you want it another? Have you been spending ridiculous amounts of money on weaves and extensions and are ready to go natural? Do you feel natural hair would let you embrace your true self, and you want to go for the “big chop?” 

How does your hair affect your social life? Does your hair make you feel unattractive and affect how you interact with members of the opposite sex? Are you undergoing a procedure to alter your hair or do you go to great lengths to manage it? Are you digging yourself into a financial hole just to manage your hair? 

If you appear to be between the ages of 15 -28 and have hair that’s making you unhappy, email us at casting@lintonmedia.com and tell us about your story. Please include your name, location, phone number and recent photos of yourself.”

~ MTV True Life Casting Site

The title of the show is “True Life: I Hate My Hair” – while I don’t think most people transition because they outright HATE their hair, I know that I was particularly unhappy with the state of my relaxed hair when I decided to go natural. If this was offered back about 4 years ago, I would have been All. Over. It!

I’ve been seeing another casting description floating around various natural hair care sites:

Is your hair your obsession? How are you struggling with your hair? Do you feel natural hair would let you embrace your true self, and you want to go for the “big chop?” Why now? What has held you back up to this moment? We would like to follow someone who is ready to do the “big chop” and follow them on their journey as they transition into their natural hair.”

Not sure where this description originated, but this is the one that seems to be rubbing some women the wrong way, and it is not the one I found on MTV’s site…

Hmm…transitioning and natural hair terms like “big chop” being featured on mainstream TV? Interesting! Without sharing any of the negative points I’ve read regarding this casting call, do you foresee any problems with this show? Or are you firing up your email to throw your hat (or head) in the ring? 

Transitioning Tips Part One: Short, Sweet & Sexy

Have you made the decision to transition?

Making the choice to go from chemically treated to natural hair is easy for some, and very difficult for others – but regardless, I’ve found that the process requires creativity, patience, and acceptance. I’ve had people ask me, “how long does the transition process take?”, but the answer is ultimately an extremely personal one. For me, the ‘transition’ itself continued long after I grew out and cut off all of my relaxed hair, so everyone will have a different perspective.

For my ladies who are looking for some quick tips and tricks on how to navigate the transitioning process, read on for Part 1!

Short-term or Long-term?

                                              

Once you’ve decided to put away the relaxer and embrace your natural hair, you have to figure out how you’re going to get there. Do you pick the quick, no muss, no fuss road of cutting off all of the relaxer and rocking a TWA (teeny weeny afro)? Or do you take your time and allow your hair to grow out until you reach a length you’re comfortable with? I took the long-term road, and let my hair grow out for a year before cutting off all the relaxed ends. Honestly, I was scared of the short ‘do and just thought it wouldn’t suit me at all. I was also nervous about dealing with my natural texture so soon – I needed time to research and learn, which is my usual process with most decisions :) One of my co-workers, on the other hand, said “To hell with it!” and chopped her shoulder-length relaxed tresses off into a Solange-style and rocked it fiercely. For her, she simply didn’t want to wait. She was looking for a major change, and that was it! Are you ready for a totally new look? Or do you need time to ease into things? Think about it, and dive in!

Tomorrow, I’ll talk about more about long-term transitioning and what that entails, but for today, I’ll focus on my brave, big chopped ladies!

So, You Chopped It All Off. Now What?

Whether your goal is to keep your hair short and sweet, or if this is just the beginning of your natural growth journey, taking care of your hair is of utmost importance.

  • Keep your hair moisturized! Find a regular co-washing (washing your hair with conditioner only) pattern that keeps your hair clean, but full of moisture.
  • Take care of your scalp. If you have severe dry scalp or dandruff, it can be more visible on shorter hair. Castor oil is a great scalp treatment. Warm some up in the microwave and give yourself a hot oil massage!
  • Get your curls on and poppin’! Find a hair gel with low alcohol content that won’t dry out your hair – IC Fantasia and Ampro gels have been two of my favourites for creating sexy curl definition. Looking for a natural alternative? Aloe vera gel will have your curls shining and soft!
  • Experiment with colour and go all the way with your new look! Definitely ensure to keep your hair protected from damage, but my TWA’d ladies are almost in the best spot to play around with colour. If your hair does get damaged, what’s the worst that could happen? You’ll have to cut it again?
  • Put your best face forward – with short hair, your beautiful facial features will be on display. Pick your favourite feature and let it shine! Amazing eyes? Gorgeous lips? Work what you’ve got!
  • Don’t forget what some great accessories can do – earrings and necklaces can add that extra POW to your outfit and give you some versatility.

Have any of you done the REAL “Big Chop”? Are you currently debating it? For my ladies who are rocking/have rocked the short ‘do, what are your favourite styling tips? What did you NOT enjoy about the look? Post your thoughts below! And for my long-term ladies, your post is on the way!

Are You Transitioning? Your Man Might Be, Too…

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Last night, I attended Dinner Delights with Afrobella – an awesome event put on by Soulafrodisiac! Another post will be coming shortly on that, but I was inspired to write this entry after the Q&A session with Afrobella.

She was detailing her transition from permed hair to natural, and mentioned that she relaxed her hair for the last time for her wedding. From that point on, she made the transition to natural hair, and I wondered, what did her new husband think? Then my brain started clicking even more, and I thought, how do the men in our lives make that transition along with us?

My question has nothing to do with a man’s “say” on his partner’s hairstyle. Each relationship is different, and whether you choose to wear your hair to please your man or to please yourself, that’s up to you. However, consider the Black man who has grown up around women with permed hair. Met you when you had permed hair. A while into the relationship, you decide to go natural. While you’re scrounging the net for styling and product tips to figure things out, he’s looking at you, attempting to figure things out too. What dynamics do you find there?

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I’ll admit, this question is a bit selfish in nature, because the scenario I just posted is what I lived not too long ago. When I met my HomieLoverFriend, I was in my relaxer hey day. Thick, luscious straight hair that would swing around my shoulders or get pulled up into a cute topknot. The most “natural” he would see is when I threw in some cornrows or braids from time to time. Years into our relationship is when I started to suffer the extreme damage that inspired me to go natural (detailed here and here), but when I started my transition with kinky twists, even then he still figured it was “break time” and I’d be back to the relaxer soon. When I finally decided to cut off the remaining relaxed ends and rock my natural, he was kind of taken aback. It took him a WHILE to like it. It was short. I’d detangle and my curls would clog the bathtub drain. He would light up when I’d get it flat ironed, and would seem slightly downtrodden when I’d go back to the curls. It was just different.

I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t just like it as much as I did. I went through phases of insecurity, then would combat that with overly aggressive statements like “Well, go getchu a permed chick then! This is ME! I am NATURAL! Hear me ROAR!” He’d look at me like I was crazy. “I’m not going anywhere,” he said. “It’s your hair and you’re happy with it.” And that was the beginning of the turning point.

When I really checked it deeply (word to Sean Paul), I had to look at things from his perspective. Nearly every woman in his life, from family to friends to past girlfriends had permed hair. That’s what he grew up seeing, and that’s what he grew accustomed to. Biracial girls were the ones who rocked their curls, but just a regla’ Black chick like me? I came to realize that he (like a lot of other men) was just not exposed to that. I began to see that my transition was his too – he and I were learning about natural hair simultaneously, and I couldn’t discredit his role in the journey. If we’re blessed to have a daughter, he’s already ahead of the game on natural hair care (I’ll have to teach him how to twist, though). More importantly, he will be able to instill in her the feeling that she is beautiful just as she is. Should we be blessed to have a son, he’s going to play a vital role in showing him that Black beauty is more than just what is shown on TV and in magazines. Parents are children’s first role models – if ours see Mommy rock a huge afro puff, a curly twist out, and flat ironed hair in the same week, AND see that Daddy loves her just the same everyday, imagine how powerful that could be for a Black child?

Lil Bee & fam back in the day...

Anyways, I’m getting ahead of myself. The ultimate thing I had to learn during my journey is that I had to be patient. Not just with my hair, but with HomieLoverFriend too. I thought he was being unsupportive, when really he just was getting used to a different expression of me. I’d speak up when I felt he hurt my feelings, when really he was just asking a sincere question in his usual blunt style. Patience and discussion – those were the two most important things for me. He has his preferences like anyone else, but he loves ME. Every last little bit of ME. When you’re lucky enough to get to the point where you really, truly see that, it makes it all worth it.

It’s My Nappiversary! Pt 2

The big chop vs. the gradual transition. This was the question back in 2007.

I had been perusing a number of American-based websites (Curly Nikki, Afrobella, and Black Girl With Long Hair to name a few), who discussed and extolled the virtues of transitioning, either through a dramatic “big chop” (cutting off ALL your hair to a style similar to this), or the gradual method (styling your hair in a manner that allowed you to grow your hair out naturally, such as this, this, or this)

I had relatively long hair my whole life. When I was 16 and wanted to do a Halle Berry pixie cut, my hairdresser flat out REFUSED to cut “all that good hair” – eye roll inserted here – so I never got to experience short hair. By the time I was considering the transition, I wasn’t willing to give up my length AND my relaxer. So gradual transition it was.

I had a love/hate relationship with braids growing up. Most were good experiences, but there was that one time my micro braids were done too tightly and with too heavy extensions…so my braids fell out. Of my head. From the root. Then there was the time I tried to do sew-in braids – I had my own hair cornrowed, and had the hair dresser sew in braided extensions. Took half the time, and looked just as good – until I was at a school basketball game, shook my hair out of the elastic that held it in a low bun, and had about 3 or 4 fall out on the bleacher floor. I scooped those bad boys up before anyone could see, and stuffed them in my purse, mortified as all hell. So I ixnayed the braid thing for a while, and moved to Plan B – the “kinky twist”.

Kinky twists are what I call the style I wore for a year or so. The hair is twisted instead of braided, and I used extensions that matched the texture of natural hair to add some length. It was a great move – didn’t take long to do, was just as versatile as braids, and I didn’t have to spend HOURS taking down the twists like I did with braids. Here are a few pics:

 All out

  Swept to the side

 Needed some heavy duty bobby pins, but pinning up was very possible

Maintenance was very lowkey – every week to two weeks I’d shampoo and condition my hair and let it air dry. Oil my scalp with whatever was handy (mainly products that were heavy with petroleum – bad choice for me now), and keep it movin’. I’d keep the twists in for about 3 months, then spend a day or two taking them down. Before I had them re-done, I’d do a really thorough deep condition (usually with V05 hot oils), cut a bit of the scraggly relaxed ends off, and peruse my new growth.

What was interesting to me was my shifting paradigm. During my relaxer days, signs of new growth were red alarms that something wasn’t right. As soon as my roots would get a bit puffy, and as soon as my edges didn’t lay as flat as I liked, I’d have my hair dresser on speed dial. However, when I really settled into the transition, I became very curious and always looked forward to peeking at these new kinks and curls taking over my head.

As curious and interested as I was, I still had some serious doubts. I hadn’t been reconnected with these curls since my childhood, and I didn’t even want them then. What was I going to do with my head NOW? I’ll admit – at times I hoped my hair would come out looking like Joan Clayton’s. I wished that it would just grow out of my head looking cute. And I hoped that I would somehow magically develop fingers that could do cute cornrows and flat twists – all the girls who I read about online would throw in a cornrow or two when their hair didn’t behave…but then I remembered I was born with two left hands full of thumbs and had NO SKILL in that area WHATSOEVER. As frustrated as I got, I was always up for the challenge, even in light of chuckles and negativity from family and friends. The end result (which I couldn’t even define then) would be worth it, I thought, so I stuck to my guns.

Finally, in mid-August 2008, I hit up a Toronto-based salon (not naming names, because the experience was quite uncomfortable and I believe they’re out of business now) to cut off the remaining relaxed ends…and was left with this:

And here is me…almost 3 years later, in June 2011:

In part 3 of this series, I’ll talk about how I got from August 2008 to now…one of the most eye-opening periods of my life…stay tuned!

It’s My Nappiversary! Pt. 1

As I mentioned before, I often get asked questions on my hair. 3 years ago this month, I finally did my “big chop” and started wearing my hair in it’s natural state – the first time since I was 12! I always like to take a bit of time to reminisce and look back on my hair journey, so here we go…

I was born with a full head of hair, and my Mom had me rockin’ rough and tough with my afro puffs, braids, and twists for most of my childhood. However, growing up in a very White city, it was very apparent that my hair wasn’t like my friends’. I’ll never forget being at a sleepover, and we decided to play the game “Hairdresser”. One of the girls pulled out her mom’s comb, blowdryer, and other tools, and all the girls proceeded to style each other’s hair. When it came to my turn, I reluctantly let them undo the braids my Mom plaited that morning, and allowed them to tangle and tear my hair into some kind of updo, all of the sake of fitting in. Let me tell you…when my Mom picked me up that morning, she took one look at my head, kissed her teeth, and thanked my friends’ mother for taking care of me. That car ride home was the longest EVER…Mom painfully drilled it through my head that my hair ISN’T like theirs, couldn’t DO the same things as theirs, and frankly would NEVER be like theirs. That is, until I learned about a little thing called “relaxer”.

At around 10 years of age, I started asking my Mom to relax, or “perm” my hair. She finally obliged when I was 12, and that started my love affair with Just for Me. I graduated to Affirm, Motions, and Revlon as the years went on, then started dabbling with colour – highlights, full head, whatever and whenever the mood struck me. My hair stayed long, strong, and thick, because I still did a pretty good job of taking care of it…but my hair luck soon ran out.

5 years ago, my hair started getting lifeless, limp, stringy, and just blah. NO amount of deep conditioning would resuscitate it, so I began to do some online research. I read a lot about women who were or had been in the same hair struggle…and the common theme was that they all went (or were in the process of going) “Natural”. I almost couldn’t fathom the idea of growing out ALL of my relaxed hair and wearing my hair naturally…but I toyed with the thought, and one day, instead of scheduling my next relaxer, I booked an appointment with a braider. I thought, ‘Let me ride this out for as long as I can!’ and from there, I began my natural hair journey…

  Baby Bee and my head of hair

 Rockin’ the afro puffs at 2 years old

 In my relaxed hair heyday…loved the creamy crack and loved colour even more!

  Starting to get thinner and thinner…had to cut off a lot of damage and tried bangs for some versatility…didn’t help much.

 Went to cornrows….didn’t necessarily want to perm again, but didn’t know exactly what to do next…

 Said “eff it!” and started the transition with kinky twists…

In my next post, I’ll detail a bit about my transition to natural hair. I couldn’t muster the REAL big chop, so I’ll explain how I did it my way…

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